21 years ago today I stood in a beautiful dress, in a sun-filled sanctuary, with many happy faces watching – facing the man I knew God had chosen for me. We confidently and happily vowed faithfulness and love to one another and as a couple, to God. We walked out of that room as husband and wife. It was a beautiful, sunny April day. Surrounded by many friends and family members, we celebrated what God had given us.
There have been lots of joyful times along the way. Lots of good memories. Lots of laughter and blessings. There have also been lots of challenges, troubles, obstacles, and “opportunities for growth” individually and as a couple.
Before we were married, John felt a call from God to serve full-time in ministry. As we made our way through the years of seminary, working extra jobs, raising 3 little girls, barely making it by, and then starting our first pastorate in New Mexico, I realized God was calling me too. He called me to stand beside John, to serve alongside Him, to use my gifts to enhance whatever John was doing. I don’t feel like it was an accident – it was on purpose. The call to be a pastor’s wife is real – it’s not just a role you accidentally fall into.
We’ve faced a lot together and I know there will be more in the future that requires us to pull together rather than apart, to lean on each other and on God, to pray, to wait, to be there for each other. All of the fearful times, the sad times, the disappointing and discouraging times, dumb decisions and better ones, misunderstandings and making up times, waiting and trusting times have deepened our love for each other and strengthened us. I wouldn’t want to face it with anyone else. I’m so glad God gave me John.
So here’s to 21 years, Honey, and to many more.