“The godly offer good counsel…” Psalm 37:30
“The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume…” Proverbs 27:9
If you know me at all, you know that when something is on my mind I need to talk about it…a lot. I have times of quiet, to be sure, when I need to pray and think, but I also need to process my thoughts by talking with someone. I think everyone is like that to a certain extent. My husband is my absolute best friend and partner, but sometimes I need to talk to someone a little more outside the situation – someone who hopefully can be objective.
There’s wisdom in seeking out a godly friend to listen and give feedback when you’re not sure what to do. Be sure to choose your listener/adviser/counsel wisely. (Whenever I say “choose wisely” I think of the 3rd Indiana Jones movie scene when the bad guy chose the wrong holy chalice and got his face melted off. Please…choose wisely!) It doesn’t make sense to ask just anyone what I should do or what they think, if they don’t believe the same things I do. For instance, if I shared a story about someone who had hurt me with a non-believing friend, they might advise me to just ignore that person from now on or even take revenge somehow. A godly friend will remind me that Jesus expects me to forgive and love no matter what. A good godly friend is not a “yes” person either, only telling you what you want to hear. They speak the truth in love.
Way back in the beginning, after creating Adam, God said to himself, “It’s not good for man to be alone.” So He gives us fellow travelers to be encouragers, counselors, prayer partners, and companions. We need each other. God often speaks through them, giving them His very words, words that when spoken into our lives bring peace, clarity, and revelation.
At the same time, after talking with a godly friend – by that I mean someone who bases their life and decisions on God’s will and His Word – I should take what they shared with me back to God. I should lay it all out and say to God, “Here’s what my friend thinks about this? What do YOU think? Are they right?” My friend’s perspective may be tainted by their love for me and therefore sometimes be biased…so I gladly listen and accept a godly friend’s counsel but I always carry it back to Papa. I sit with Him as He helps me sift through it all, looking for nuggets of truth that will help me find my way. When you don’t know what to do, seek out a friend you trust who believes in God and His Word, then take what they say to God.