This video has made me cry three times now. Every time I watch it I am so moved by the love expressed. What a beautiful perspective and reminder that we’re all pocked with scars, flaws, imperfections and more. To think that we’d fondly remember someone’s blemishes or even irritating habits with love, as signs that person is a living, breathing human being, flies in the face of most people’s attitudes toward others.
I wonder why we measure and rate people in our minds against the high standard of perfection when no one can ever meet it or achieve it. Is it pride? Is it because it makes our spots and specks seem less ugly or noticeable if we focus on someone else’s? Jesus warned against calling attention to others’ faults forgetting or ignoring the fact that we have glaring flaws ourselves.
The lady in this video takes that truth and turns it a little bit – the things that irritated her about her husband became endearing, beautiful signs of his life and presence with her. I don’t want to wait for a terminal illness to take someone I love before I learn this important truth. It is a godly perspective. Think of God’s love for us. If anyone has the right to compare us to a high standard it is Him. He actually IS holy, pure and blameless. We are made of dirt, sinful, and defective, prone to disobey, prone to be prideful and want our own way, prone to mess up. There are even scars from the hurts we endure while living this life, some from mistakes we’ve made, some just from the toughness of circumstances, some from abuse or mistreatment from other flawed people.
In the powerful movie “Slumdog Millionaire” the filthy, impoverished, challenging and tragic lives of some children of India are portrayed. All throughout their growing up they face abuse, hunger, fear, violence and more. They endure it, however, and make it to adulthood. Two of the children, Jamal and Latika, become close, but are eventually separated, taking different paths. As an adult, Jamal seeks out Latika and pursues her. She “belongs” to a crime boss who mistreats her and at one point, when she tries to flee to join Jamal, is caught and taken back to her abuser, her face cut with the knife of her captor in punishment. Finally, at the very end of the movie, she is able to go to Jamal. After waiting and watching for a long time, he sees her and eagerly runs to her. When they meet she covers her face to hide the ugly scar left there. Jamal instead tenderly kisses her cheek, right on the scar, as if to say “that’s part of who you are and I love all of you.”
When Jesus died on the cross for my sins, God reached down and kissed my scars. He told me He loved me, even though I was marred and disfigured by sin. He washed me and gave me freedom. God allows me to know and love Him in close relationship because of what Jesus did. I’m accepted, welcomed, loved. Thankfully my flaws don’t make God love me less. According to the Bible He loves all of us equally and His love is never-ending, vast, wide, deep, and perfect.
What would happen if we loved in this way? If we told people by our actions, and even in our words, I love you, snores and all. I love you, stubbornness, forgetfulness, bad habits and all. I love you, all of you. Your idiosyncracies don’t make me love you any less.
God, help to remember how imperfect I am and to see the imperfections in those around me as signs of their individuality, uniqueness, and life. Help me to love like You love, to love without demanding others conform to my standards, to enjoy and celebrate who they are, to kiss their scars.
“God showed how much he loved us by having Christ die for us, even though we were sinful.” Romans 5:8